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Seek Progress Over Perfection with Ourselves and in Parenting

Submitted by Rita Brhel on 23 March 2023

Our job as parents is to appreciate the process that our children go through rather than trying to correct it into a more rigid form. For example, if you have a child who draws a green pony, you say, "Oh, a green pony! That's wonderful," instead of telling the child that ponies aren't green.

Perfectionism is probably the biggest creativity block I run across. When we speak of perfection, we actually are reaching for an unattainable goal, because as human beings, we aren't perfect. If we look to perfection to judge our work by, we will always fall short, so it's very important to model that it's OK to be imperfect and that there are such things as rough drafts. 

For children to realize that practicing imperfection over and over again is moving a little bit at a time toward an ideal, is a much kinder way to go than demanding that the first job or the first attempt be perfect. That can stop a child's or anyone's creativity in its tracks.

What is one thing you do well in how you are raising your child? How can you reframe your goals to be able to celebrate your mini-milestones?


(Editor's note: This is an excerpt from an interview with the author; read the original article in its entirety here.)

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